Category Archives: Life

One Last Time

As the final week of this semester begins in just a few short hours, I want to take a moment to reflect on what I have learned the most by taking J360 at IUPUI. This course has challenged me to use different social media outlets and to use them on a more regular basis. Although my use may not have been where it should have been, I would like to think that I learned a lot; I learned both personal and professional lessons. With the help of taking this class, I have found Twitter and blogging to be somewhat fun (more fun than I expected in total honesty). With blogging, I really like the idea of having a professional or even personal place to put my thoughts and ideas out there. With Twitter, I have come better understand the use of hashtags and have discovered that they can be extremely helpful and fun. They offer you a new way to connect with others besides just posting a tweet or picture. 

Prior to this class I was an passive Facebook user. I was the type of person to “creep” , if you will, on other peoples’ posts and pictures but not post much of either myself. Now, I find that I like to post more of my thoughts and things I want to share with others. One downfall of this has been that I have seen the bitter and dangerous side of posting your ideas and thoughts…Sometimes, certain people just don’t want to hear what you have to say and that can create conflict. But maybe that was my own doing or a long time coming: I can decide which yet. Either way, I have learned to get more out of Facebook and Twitter and the other social media outlets besides scrolling through the pages. 

My overall opinion about social media has not really changed much. I still see it as a way to connect with people and an outlet for which people can express themselves, for better or for worse (as my web video will demonstrate). I think this course was great for me and I was challenged more than I expected to be, because like I said, I probably fell short in the posting category of this class. But nevertheless, I did post more than I normally would have over the last three or four months. I plan to keep working and getting better with posting and with the content that I post and I plan to keep my blog going (because it’s FUN)! I truly do believe that social media is here to stay and the sooner we all embrace it, the sooner we can all start to best utilize it’s features!

 

 


Thanksgiving just isn’t what it used to be….

The upcoming holiday is meant to be a time full of thanks and family festivities, but unfortunately the meaning is slowly slipping through our fingers and no one seems to be willing to stop it. The highly anticipated day after Thanksgiving…Black Friday… seems to have slowly creeped its way into Thanksgiving day!! Two years ago, I was working for Bed, Bath & Beyond, and don’t get me wrong, it was worth the experience I received. But that was the year that the company decided to have a late night shift starting at 9 p.m. Thanksgiving night and remain open through Black Friday. To a college student whose hometown and family was two hours away, this was devastating! Thankfully I didn’t have to work the night shift, but I did have to be back to work early Friday morning, making it difficult to enjoy any family time at all. I understand that people gear up for Christmas right after Thanksgiving, but could we benefit from toning the hype down a bit? My heart breaks for those that have to work on Thanksgiving, and thus, like many people I know, I am boycotting any type of shopping on Thursday! It is not fair to have these folks work and unable to spend time with their families! Thanksgiving is supposed to be about family and relaxation and stuffing our faces with turkey! NOT working so that other RUDE, SELFISH people can get their Christmas shopping fix done early. A co-worker of mine put it in the best terms:

“People have 364 other days to shop and get great deals. Why do they (people) need to take away Thanksgiving for others to shop one day early ?”


One Month Shy

I wanted to mix things up a little tonight and stray away from sports for a moment…

My husband and I are almost one month shy of our one year wedding anniversary. Even though we didn’t have a normal ceremony with the flowers and the music and even family and friends, I still look back on it and think: 

“That was the best day of my life…and this has been the best year of my life!”

I have enjoyed nothing more than being married to my best friend! I have a really appreciation for him and we honestly have had the very best first year of marriage I could have ever hoped or dreamed for. Come next week, we will have been together for four years. All of that time has just flown by! I can remember the day we met, our first date, when I knew I loved him, and the moment I knew I wanted to marry him. Now don’t let me fool you, we’ve had our fair share of ups and downs, and even broke up for a short time. But even in that short time, we were inseparable! Our love has grown into the perfect shade tree to shelter us from the storms of this life! 

This morning I remember telling him how much I love that we are a team. When I am upset or angry or freaking out about something, he has the power to calm me down. When he is angry and wants to break knees, I have the power to calm him down. For lack of better words, he is my shot of whiskey and I am his glass of wine. I love my husband more than I ever thought I could love anyone! He is the first person in my life that has accepted me with all my flaws and loved me unconditionally! I couldn’t have asked for a better best friend or husband. I got both in him and I look forward to many more happy years! 


Shutdown

We’ve heard it before and we heard it again…

 

Government Shutdown

 

This has been called out so many times that I think the American public are beginning to become accustom to seeing it or hearing it. It’s like the little boy that cried “Wolfe” and then no one believed him when there actually was one. I’m not sure I actually believe that there will ever be this governmental shutdown that they keep threatening, and I don’t think I am alone on this. 

For months we’ve seen lawmakers on both sides engaged in this staring contest with neither side willing to blink. Shouldn’t people elected officials be willing to set aside their personal agendas and personal feelings to get something done? Why are they acting like children…willing to hold their breath until they either get their way or pass out (aka. shutdown)?

I don’t know about anyone else, but I don’t feel represented. I don’t feel that my elected official is looking out for my best interest, nor do I have a voice. I doubt the government will shut down, but if it does, maybe that’ll be the wake up call our officials need to start representing their people again.


Ignorance

It has come to my attention through a family dispute that ignorance lies at the heart of all misunderstanding. But why has ignorance affected us so deeply? Why is ignorance still an excuse to say or think whatever we want? A lot of times, we has human beings don’t want to face the facts or deal with an underlying problem so we choose to be ignorant and bury the problem deeper into society. 

Unfortunately, the issue I speak of is deeply rooted within this country…racism. It was shocking to me how a person within my family was capable of such ignorance when they posted a confederate flag on Facebook with a late post saying that the confederate flag did not stand for slavery and that was not what the Civil war was about. 

Being the older sister of an adopted black brother, I quickly felt the need to rip him apart. However, I took a moment to analyze what it was that he actually had said and thought: “Maybe he just doesn’t really understand what he said.” So needless to say, my husband, being the more level headed one, stepped in and responded with a lengthy response; questioning and analyzing the post on Facebook. 

In the end, an apology came our way, but in the back of my mind, I still can’t help but think about all the hard work that has been accomplished, but all the hard work that is yet to come. As united as this country may stand, or not stand, we still have yet to weed out the deep seeded ignorance that minority races in the country have equal rights, too.  Admittedly, I see the confederate flag posted in the back of trucks and in yards more frequently than I’d like. The 13th Amendment may have freed slaves, but we have a long way to go for civil equality.

On top of this issue, I’d hate to point out the fact that it is possible that within our lifetime, the white race will become the minority race. And you know what I mean!! We are seeing more and more people marrying into other cultures. These couples get it!! These families see the potential and what this world and this country can become. Ignorance is slowly dying, but unfortunately, not slow enough. Ignorance is no long an excuse that a racist individual can hide behind. We need to call it like we see it and maybe that will spark a change. A penny is a penny; a mule is a mule; a racist is a racist. 


Marriage

Marriage: By definition is the relationship between a husband and wife…

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’  and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ?  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” -Matthew 19: 4-6

So if marriage is meant to be between a man and a woman, why is there a traditional need to have expensive weddings and celebrate with family members that you haven’t spoken to in years? Well, it’s just that…

TRADITION. 

Now many people would argue that in the Bible it states that they celebrated with family as witnesses. But do we really understand what that meant? Do we really WANT to understand what a traditional marriage in the Bible times looked like? The following graphic depicts exactly the type of marriages we find in the Bible, many of which are no longer practiced today due to government influence…

http://www.upworthy.com/the-top-8-ways-to-be-traditionally-married-according-to-the-bible

If all of these types of unions existed in Bible times and are stories told to our children and within the church, why are these practices so frowned upon now? It could be that moral and social values HAVE indeed influenced the church. Many Christians now-a-days see these unions as “disgusting” or “immoral” yet we cherish the very characters who practiced these unions.

Now, don’t get me wrong, my personal beliefs are that I will only have one husband for the rest of my life, but it seems silly to assume that marriage has always been this way. Yes, marriage in Bible times was originally between one man and one woman, but more often than not, he also acquired her slaves, her concubines, more than one wife, etc. Well we certainly don’t have slaves anymore in the Western world, nor do we have concubines, and polygamy is not a common practice.

I guess my overall question still remains…

Why is a large wedding seen as traditional when we’ve made a decision to honor ONE of the many traditional wedding practices found in the Bible? The answer is still unclear, but the one thing that I do know is that I am concrete in what I believe. I was married to one man, made a public commitment to him before God, and vow to love this man for the rest of my life. I didn’t feel the need to have an huge wedding with lots of people. I didn’t want to get wrapped up in all the details that I forget why I was actually doing what I was doing. Keeping our marriage simple and just between us gave me the satisfying feeling that nothing could go wrong and that I was there for all the right reasons; that I was fully there in the moment both emotionally and mentally. I wasn’t worrying about what could or might go wrong when my back was turned. I was fully aware of my decisions and what that moment meant for us. We came together and walked away husband and wife.

And nothing can change that.


Strangers

As August has come and gone, many are back in classes; seniors are enjoying possibly some of the easiest semesters of their college careers; juniors are anticipating their senior year; sophomores are like the middle child, stuck between the newbies and the upperclassmen; freshman have signed up for 16 credit hours and are trying to juggle school and social freedom. But they all have one thing in common:

a need to matter

Regardless of your class standing and how many credit hours you are taking, we all want to matter in some way. Now, this goal looks different to everyone, but still the underlying theme exists: purpose.  In one way or another, everyone wants to matter, whether it be to their significant other, their friends, their professors, whatever it may be. We all have ideas of how to make the world a better place, or hopes of just making someone’s day by the simplicity of a smile.

But how many of us actually act on these ideas or impulses. What’s holding us back? What is that we actually have to lose if we matter to that one person that doesn’t matter to anyone else?  It’s easy to matter to those that love us simply because they the LOVE us. It hardly ever occurs to us that we could matter to a stranger. Thank you to those that have gone before us and mattered to a stranger. Thank you for paving a the straight and narrow for those of us that stand at the line, but are afraid to cross. We need not be afraid, for only good can come for making a positive difference.

Let’s all be challenged to matter to a stranger.