Monthly Archives: November 2013

Thanksgiving just isn’t what it used to be….

The upcoming holiday is meant to be a time full of thanks and family festivities, but unfortunately the meaning is slowly slipping through our fingers and no one seems to be willing to stop it. The highly anticipated day after Thanksgiving…Black Friday… seems to have slowly creeped its way into Thanksgiving day!! Two years ago, I was working for Bed, Bath & Beyond, and don’t get me wrong, it was worth the experience I received. But that was the year that the company decided to have a late night shift starting at 9 p.m. Thanksgiving night and remain open through Black Friday. To a college student whose hometown and family was two hours away, this was devastating! Thankfully I didn’t have to work the night shift, but I did have to be back to work early Friday morning, making it difficult to enjoy any family time at all. I understand that people gear up for Christmas right after Thanksgiving, but could we benefit from toning the hype down a bit? My heart breaks for those that have to work on Thanksgiving, and thus, like many people I know, I am boycotting any type of shopping on Thursday! It is not fair to have these folks work and unable to spend time with their families! Thanksgiving is supposed to be about family and relaxation and stuffing our faces with turkey! NOT working so that other RUDE, SELFISH people can get their Christmas shopping fix done early. A co-worker of mine put it in the best terms:

“People have 364 other days to shop and get great deals. Why do they (people) need to take away Thanksgiving for others to shop one day early ?”


One Month Shy

I wanted to mix things up a little tonight and stray away from sports for a moment…

My husband and I are almost one month shy of our one year wedding anniversary. Even though we didn’t have a normal ceremony with the flowers and the music and even family and friends, I still look back on it and think: 

“That was the best day of my life…and this has been the best year of my life!”

I have enjoyed nothing more than being married to my best friend! I have a really appreciation for him and we honestly have had the very best first year of marriage I could have ever hoped or dreamed for. Come next week, we will have been together for four years. All of that time has just flown by! I can remember the day we met, our first date, when I knew I loved him, and the moment I knew I wanted to marry him. Now don’t let me fool you, we’ve had our fair share of ups and downs, and even broke up for a short time. But even in that short time, we were inseparable! Our love has grown into the perfect shade tree to shelter us from the storms of this life! 

This morning I remember telling him how much I love that we are a team. When I am upset or angry or freaking out about something, he has the power to calm me down. When he is angry and wants to break knees, I have the power to calm him down. For lack of better words, he is my shot of whiskey and I am his glass of wine. I love my husband more than I ever thought I could love anyone! He is the first person in my life that has accepted me with all my flaws and loved me unconditionally! I couldn’t have asked for a better best friend or husband. I got both in him and I look forward to many more happy years! 

Why does the world of collegiate sports lack women athletics?

Collegiate sports are one of America’s favorite pass-times. Both the football and basketball seasons bring in more money than all other collegiate sports combined. But what makes these programs so successful? Now, take me for what my opinion is worth, but many of these programs, from UNC to Noter Dame to UCL, all have behind the scenes people that we don’t think about or give credit to: The Athletic Departments and Athletic Directors. However, what’s even more surprising (or maybe it’s not to most) is that almost all of Division I Athletic Directors are men.  

Now, I’m not saying that this is a bad thing, but maybe there is room for possible change and growth. According to an article on the National Association of Collegiate Women Athletics Administrators, “women occupy five of the 120 athletic-director positions in Division I-A.”  

With all the progress that women have made in the last century, and with the adaptation of Title IX by the NCAA, you might think that the number of women athletic directors would have risen steadily with the increase of women athletics in institutions across the country. Sadly this has not been the case. It’s not that women aren’t skilled or educated enough. But rather a popular belief stands in their way. Influential boosters of collegiate programs believe that women are not up to the task of leading programs dominated by men’s sports, nor can they handle the business aspect of the job. The NACWAA sees it in the way that college presidents and chancellors need to break the mold and hire a woman. 

Unfortunately, it is my feelings and beliefs that women will always be seen as inadequate in the sports world by some critics. Yes, we’ve come a long way since the women’s rights movements, but we still have a ways to go. There is still a stigma that women don’t have a place in sports, or don’t do much for the athletic programs. Even professional sports lack the respect for women’s sports, but that’s an argument for another day. 

Nevertheless, the five women that currently lead DI-A programs – “Sandy Barbour, at the University of California at Berkeley; Kathy Beauregard, at Western Michigan University; Cary Groth, at the University of Nevada at Reno; Lisa Love, at Arizona State University; and Deborah A. Yow, at North Carolina State University” – have earned all my respect. I hope the future finds more women athletic directors and less push-back, if you will, to the change and the skill-set of a women leader in sports. 

The Dangers of Football Hit Close to Home

As the main stream media, doctors and scientists dive deeper into the reality of traumatic brain injuries and football, I can’t help but realize just how close to home this is for me. I grew up in small town where football was what we lived on once we went back to school in the fall. We were a football town, through and through. But as I learn more about the dangers of the sport and the numbers of athletes that play with brain injuries, and injuries period, I can’t help but feel a little guilty about our admiration for the sport.

Of course I know that football by nature is a violent sport and that the men who play are trained to be as physical as physical will allow. But, when I sit back and think about it just a little more, I can’t help but ask the question: 

“How young is too young?”

The only reason this bothers me so much is because my little brother has reached the age where he can choose to play football. He can now partake in the community’s pee-wee league and that scares me a little. With society so willing to accept the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” attitude, my brother is likely to learn the habit of not saying anything when he “get’s his bell rung.” 

According to the New York Times boys who play high school football suffered from 11.2 per 10,000 games and practices. Now I know that my brother is no where near the high school playing age, but if children are starting to play this game at an early age, how much higher is that number likely to be? I know pee-wee leagues are not as physical, but yet they can be pretty physical in comparison to the tiny bodies that are playing.

I don’t discourage the little tikes from playing the game. In fact I am one of those that thinks someone can learn a lot from playing a sport. I’m just wondering how many young players aren’t aware of the risks or are too afraid to say anything when they do get hit hard and suffer from a mild headache. The change in attitude towards concussions won’t start at the top level. It might have to come from the bottom and trickle up. Change might mean younger players aren’t faced with the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” and concussions are treated properly without the fear or anxiety of not being able to play for a few days. Shame in protecting their minds and brains from injury should not be associated with this sport. It should be the exact opposite.